Where I’ve Been and Where I’m Going…

It’s been a hot minute since I really sat down to work on this little site of mine. To be honest, I have struggled as a mom for the past few years. You see, my boys are not babies or teens anymore. They have full blown adults with lives of their own.

And I won’t lie and say that having that realization was easy. It WAS HARD. I struggled internally for so many years as I watched them grow and then one day it hit me…they are GROWN and I don’t know who I am.

I had lost myself over the years raising them, being there 100%, and doing anything I could think of that would make their lives easier. Why? Because I wanted to, but in the process…I lost myself.

In all true honesty, I feel like I failed, not as a parent, but as an individual. I had my kids young which was great because I got to experience life and growing up with them. Did I do things wrong? Absolutely! Do I own that? You bet I do!

I honestly don’t think I could keep up with them today (if I were to do it over again). My mind says I can do all the things, but my body has other plans.

But in the process of making their lives easier, watching them grow, teaching them right from wrong and just being busy in this thing called life, I lost myself and as a result, I lost what I had. And then I had to process that trauma, pivot, turn, and learn who I am and what I want to do as a single mom.

You see a little over 6 years ago, I went through a divorce after 19 years of marriage and moved from the city to the country. Looking back on what I went through, I can honestly say it was for the best. He’s happy and remarried. I’m happy for him and his wife, but I’m also so dang happy in my current relationship.

My boyfriend (still sounds weird after saying it for nearly 6 years) and I have had some of the best times together. We have gone on trips and love spending time together, even if it’s just relaxing at home. There is always laughter around us and love! Plus, I’ve gained two “bonus sons” even though we aren’t married.

We have some of the best friends and family in our lives! We’ve been on a few cruises, a couple 10-day motorcycle trips (camping and riding all the backroads across the country), cruising the backroads around the house, going to vintage motorcycle rallies, playing in the woods on side-by-sides and 4 wheelers. It’s been an amazing adventure and a blast to do things we both love!

We love to travel and enjoy whatever adventure comes our way while making some pretty amazing memories too.

In the process of going on these trips and doing things around the house, I have found what I love and I am still finding myself too.

So now you know where I’ve been…now let’s see where I’m going.

Now that my sons are adults, I am trying to take things a little easier. Relaxing, crocheting, sewing, gardening, riding my motorcycle…yes, I have a motorcycle! Well, it’s a CanAm Spyder (trike), but it is so fun!

Let me tell you, my Spyder has gotten me through some REALLY rough times. You see, I look at my Spyder as my therapy. Heck…I even named her “Therapy”! If I am having a bad day or just need to get away, I hop on it and go for a little ride.

They say wind therapy is good and let me tell you, it has helped me in so many ways. The freedom you feel riding is above everything. The wind therapy and the sites you see along the way put everything back into perspective. Well, at least it does for me.

Being able to take time and reflect on how I want to move forward with this site has been kind of fun because I get to focus on the things that matter most to me.

Moving forward, you will see:

Easy Recipes – we still have to get dinner on the table every night whether it’s for one, two, four, or more.

Meal Planning – this will always be a part of my life each week and I will be sharing more tips on meal planning and meal plans to help you easily plan for your family too.

Crafts & DIY – this could be a crochet, sewing, or craft project I am working on at the moment.

Gardening – in the process of finding myself, I discovered that I love gardening. Being able to grow something from a seed into something we can eat is pretty awesome.

Plus, I live in the country so taking a 15 mile trip to the store has to be planned. I like fresh vegetables so now I can grab what I need right in my own yard without having to make a special trip into town just to make a salad or side dish for dinner!

Organizing & Cleaning Tips – my heart still loves an organized house and I want to share my tips with you.

Parenting – even though I am not in the “parenting day in day out” game anymore, I still have tips and tricks to share. You may not see them “regularly”, but helping you make your life easier is still a priority.

So there you have it…I hope you will stick around with me as I shift my focus to things that make my heart happy! I also hope what I share helps you in your day to day lives because I started this site many moons ago as a way to help you just as much as I was helping myself get through the daily grind of motherhood and life.